Dad Stories

[Trillian]

So it was Father's Day yesterday. Let's talk about our Dads. Did you do anything for your Dad yesterday? Any fond or unfond memories?

One of my sisters and I always go splitsies on gifts and this year we got our stepfather Boom Blox for his Wii (which he loved and I can't wait to go home and play) and we got our father a really nice Zippo to fuel his smoking habit. I didn't go out and do anything with them though, I'm just too busy.

I can't think of any anecdotes about my Dad, he was pretty much absent from a lot of my childhood. But, I'll always remember thinking my Dad was 'way cool' as a child because he always drove really fast with his music blaring and played a lot of video games. Haha. He doesn't do any of those things anymore and completely denies ever perpetually speeding and playing his music loud. Now, that's just weird...

My stories suck, I want to hear some good ones now!

[LataKali]

I wasn't too close to my dad growing up. He had two kids from a previous marriage that kept him pretty occupied back then. We spent a lot of time on the road with my parents' band, but I always remember him being grumpy. haha

Fortunately, times have changed and we're much closer now. I guess some poignant memories include a Ringo Starr concert he took me to when I was 14, or the casino cruise he took me on a few years ago. We didn't do anything yesterday; I forgot it was Father's Day until I was at work. oops. So, I didn't make him pay me back for the head of lettuce I bought for his hamburgers, I said it was his Father's Day lettuce. XD 'Tis the nature of our relationship and he appreciated that he raised me well in my penny-pinching ways. And he followed it up with one of his homemade, corny jokes. "Saving money on lettuce is a good way to get a head!" And we all fake laughter. And he knows it.

[Atlas]

Now, I'm not trying to sound bitter here. But yeah, I've never met my dad, so this whole thing never felt relevant in my life.

Do I wish I had met him? Hmmm... Not particularly. Things ended up the way they did. That's that. My mom did the best she could with what she had. I really do believe that. She left my father before I was born. He was mentally abusing; so much so that she decided to leave, because she knew he was incapable of providing a safe environment for me.

So, yeah. Go mom.

[Phakiel]

Mother and father separated when I was around 8 years old and my father is sort of this gigantic prick who never actually cared about me and my sister but its too much of a douchebag to actually realize that his shot at being close to us is long gone. The thing is, father is really just like a clueless dude, I dont think he is actually capable of caring for someone, maybe it was a troubled upbringing or maybe it was because he is a military man, but the thing when he used to visit during birthdays and holidays he would always hug us and tell us he loved us but then disappeared until the next holiday and so on, and also when he said it, sort of didnt feel like it was true, even if he actually wanted to believe it.

Father is a very troubled man, he has many personal problems and messed up character traits, so does mother, which actually effect on my and it also doesnt help that my family basically breaks the concept of dysfunctional, we are just a bunch of really unbalanced individuals.

As for father stories, well it was that fun day at the ice cream place where he called my younger sister by his other daughter's name or when he tried to reconnect with me and being a dad when I was turning 22 years old, was on my second year practicing law and was pretty much done growing up (well, considered I havent matured a day over 21).

One thing that was sort of nice though was when he tried to reconnect and he invited me over to Washington D.C. He was staying there as a military aide to our country's consular mission and taking courses at I think George Washington University, so he paid me a ticket to DC and we went over to New York and I met his mother and stepdad as well as his brother and two sisters and their children. It was nice to meet my other side of the family as I was raised by mother's side.

My real father figure was my maternal grandfather, godfather and my two uncles. All that crap you normally get when thinking of father and son moments were spread among those four dudes, more so my grandpa and as for his dad stories I have pretty much everything covered ranging from playing catch in his living room, watching movies together, talking about life, asking for a playstation, him asking me to improve my grades. I became a lawyer because of him and I am thankful that so far I havent let him down, well even though I was a complete mess in high school but I made up for it.

[LadyAkuma]

My dad was a bad man too. :( I had to leave home because of him which is why I disappeared from the net for a while.

[Powerslave]

My dad's awesome. We made steaks on Father's Day with the whole family. Lotsa fun.

[Cyrus the virus]

My dad beat his kids, came home drunk, invited his friends over to snort cocaine, robbed a bank and went to prison when I was an infant, writes long letters to apologize but doesn't respect either of his sons, doesn't take life seriously but is ridiculously emotional as well to boot.

So yeah I didn't call.

I was really attached to my dad growing up, though. I didn't understand why my mom was so angry with him all the time, but I guess I do now. I used to go over when I was younger and he'd smoke around me, I'd have to go to the hospital every time I went back to my mom's (I had severe asthma and my dad knew this).

Daddy-son moments in movies get to me easily ;) haha

[Void]

Oh good lord... uh, here it goes. The day before father's day, my dad called my sister drunk, demanding my phone number because he caught wind of some shit I posted about him on Facebook. She wouldn't give it to him, so he ridiculed her, and myself, and made himself out to be a victim of bad children and bad parents. So then he hung up on my sister and called my mother - who was out of town - and left a message on the answering machine accusing my step-dad of being a wife stealer.

Anyway, I could go into details about my dad, but I've been coming here for 7 to 8 years, so I imagine anyone who cares already knows about our bad history.

[Felwerk]

He was in Atlantic City. Some poker tournament. AC is really boring to visit if you don't play cards. We get along nowadays, but neither of us are the sort to celebrate stupid holidays.

[Trillian]

Wow, everyone's Dad sucks. What's with that?

I wasn't too close to my dad growing up. He had two kids from a previous marriage that kept him pretty occupied back then. We spent a lot of time on the road with my parents' band, but I always remember him being grumpy. haha
That's funny, because I'm actually the kid from the previous marriage in my Dad's life. And, my Dad's pretty wrapped up in his new family. He has a four year old and another on the way, both who are already spoiled rotten (yes, even the unborn child). I was never spoiled as a kid, my Dad wouldn't even splurge on good cereal!!

[Inari]

My dad's a pretty decent dude. Maybe a little overprotective but he's mellowed with age. I got him some movies for Father's Day and one of them was Taken, which was a really good movie. It wasn't until afterwards that I realized, maybe not the best movie for him to watch on Father's Day when I live 450 miles away on my own. Maybe.

[Data]

My daddy loves me and I love him. I sent him a Star Trek themed Father's Day card that played the theme song to the original.

[Atlas]

My dad's a pretty decent dude. Maybe a little overprotective but he's mellowed with age. I got him some movies for Father's Day and one of them was Taken, which was a really good movie. It wasn't until afterwards that I realized, maybe not the best movie for him to watch on Father's Day when I live 450 miles away on my own. Maybe.

Still a great movie to get your dad for Father's Day. With all that many manly heroism n' stuff. And the obvious father/daughter theme the movie has.

[Mark]

well I was out at sea yesterday...so unfortunitly I have not done anything for my father. but I am back on land now, and I am going to see my parents in less then a week, so I plan on making up for both fathers and mothers day when that happens sense I never really get a chance to do so with my job in the coast guard. I will be home with both of them for the first time in a long time then...so I will think of something to make up for all the lost fathers and mothers days missed. I have no damn ides what though... :/

[Void]

Wow, everyone's Dad sucks. What's with that?

My mother was even worse. Luckily for me, I was adopted by my grandparents. Should I had slipped through the cracks, or had to have lived with dad, I would probably be dead or in jail by now.

But in all honesty, I pretty much consider my grandfather to be my real father. He was there for me when my real dad was too busy doing drugs or being "influential". I consider myself to be lucky that I at least had someone, when so many of my friends have had to deal with bad parents because there was no one else. My grandfather passed away last year (July 8th), and I would liked to have called him on fathers day, but that's obviously not possible. Either way, I learned a lot about being a responsible person, and a man, from my grandfather.

I've also learned a lot from my biological parents. Pretty much what not to do, when I have kids.

Anyway, I pretty much dwell on that shit on a daily basis, but try to keep it in the background.

[Inari]

Still a great movie to get your dad for Father's Day. With all that many manly heroism n' stuff. And the obvious father/daughter theme the movie has.
Well yeah, it's kind of like "hey dad I know you've always been there for me." But on his end it's like "oh fuck why did I have daughters, people in this world are so sick..." and then I imagine he might fret a little bit.

Plus he's a cool dude and all but he doesn't have the kind of special skills needed to mow everyone down between him and me. Oh wells. :( Love ya anyway pops.

[charolastra00]

I have a lot of respect for my dad. He came from absolutely nothing- a single teen mother who couldn't be bothered to at least try to involve his father in his life (and to this day he doesn't know who the father is), abject poverty, no emphasis on his education at home, and 3 siblings from 2 different fathers who he had to raise. He went on to break the cycle of poverty by being the ONLY person in his family (even to this day) to get married and have children within the marriage. He worked his way up from rock bottom in a computer company to being senior project manager and even VP at one point in one company. He also has raised two kids who are going to college and out of all of the cousins, aunts, and uncles- we're the only ones.

We tend to butt heads a lot because we're very similar people. Also, he's been struggling with depression due to being laid off and unable to find another job due to the economy and his age. Sometimes I worry that he's going a bit senile as well. He means well but there's just too much going on in his head to be an effective parent right now.

[Phakiel]

My father remains an asshole.

I love how all you have great fathers, I really fucking love it, now I am gonna go curl in my corner while I contemplate on becoming a heroind addicted stripper.

[Atlas]

If it's any consolation, I never knew my dad. Oddly enough though, we have a lot of the same mannerisms and anxieties. From what my mom has told me, at least.

[Trillian]

My dad isn't great. He was mostly absent from my childhood and now he has a new family. I just don't hold grudges, it takes too much energy for me to remain angry about such things.

My stepfather is pretty great though! Not many people will say that. He took care of us just like he would his own children, even though his own children were abducted by his exwife and he hasn't seen them since.

[Hyde]

My father remains an asshole.

I love how all you have great fathers, I really fucking love it, now I am gonna go curl in my corner while I contemplate on becoming a heroind addicted stripper.

My father is an abusive, drug addict, alcoholic who blames me and my birth for ruining his once promising career....

Know what I did for Father's Day? Spent it with my son.

[LataKali]

Upon thinking about it further, I suppose I should add that the reason my dad was preoccupied with my brother and sister from his first marriage was because he had sole custody of them. Their mother didn't want them, so he was a single father for several years before he met my mom. He became rather grumpy around the mid-life crisis, but he's never done anything I could fault him for. He's definitely the one who taught me how to enjoy life as it comes and "don't sweat the small stuff."

[Tenacious P]

My dad is alright. I've inherited some of his good traits, and some of his bad traits. He did a good job screwing up our family, but I can forgive.