Do you depend on anything?

[Jarrid]

As much as I would like to keep things simple in life and not have to depend on anything at all, I was thinking to myself today that there are a lot of things people in general really do depend on. If it were not because of this or that, they would not know what to do without it. So what do you depend on the most in your life?

As sad as it is to say this in my opinion, I really do depend on my cellphone a whole lot. I do not know what I would do if for some reason it stopped working, or I could not pay the bill. It is my source of communication with all of my friends, family, and girlfriend. I use it if I ever get lost driving and other emergencies.

I depend on my medication. I also do not like that about myself because medication is one thing I really never wanted to get addicted to. However, it really does help control my moods to a point in which I am not depressed all the time. My anxiety medication helps me out whenever I am feeling like I am about to have a panic attack, and it is a life saver every time. Hopefully one day I can be without it all, but I do not see that in the near future.

I will post some more later.

[Matron]

I suppose the one thing that I depend on most these days is the internet.

I can use to to find pretty much anything, but more than that, I can come to places like this, relax, and almost feel like I'm a part of something, almost feel like I actually have friends. It's a nice feeling.

I used to really depend on my mom a lot, but this entire year, it's been more her having to depend on me, and it's really throwing me.

[Polygon]

Well, the only things that I can't live without would be my medications but I'd pretty pissed if I lost all my personal data.

[Atlas]

I depend on music.

Most of all this guy, David Bazan:

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[Hyde]

I depend on music.

Most of all this guy, David Bazan

So like...1 video wasn't enough? :p

The only things I depend on anymore are the internet/my computer, which nets me most of my business and allows me to work....and my cat, whom always loves me unconditionally and believes he's a person so he likes to stay with me.

[King Zeal]

I depend on friends/acquaintances.

It may or may not be easy to tell by my online persona, but I get lonesome very easily. Being an only child and a latchkey kid will do that to you.

I tend to get myself into trouble at times because I want to be respected by my close friends. I don't mean legal trouble, but financial trouble. Many times, I've done favors for friends because they made me feel that I was getting them out of a jam. However, quite a few of those times, those favors have substantially hurt me. My car has over $500 worth of body damage because I chose to drive a friend home one day and got involved in a hit-and-run. And yet, whenever I refuse to give him another ride (or any of my other friends for that matter), they act like I'm the bad guy. But, I don't see anyone offering to help patch up my ride, so . . . whatever.

I'm hoping I don't have codependency issues, honestly. But, outside of the internet, I just care too damn much about what some people think of me.

[Matron]

Being an only child does give you loneliness issues. I was an only child too, and more than that, lived out in the sticks with no one my own age at all to play with. The one time we did have neighbor kids my age, bitch tried to steal my barbie and give me her crappy one her dog chewed up, so that ended that. I guess it's kind of appropriate that I'm grown now, and even though I'm married and have three kids, I still get lonely a lot, because I lost touch with all my school friends, and never really made any others. It doesn't bother me most of the time, because I'm used to it, but sometimes I get very morose and depressed, and it's just because I miss having people around to talk to and play around with. Marriage is great, but there are just some things you don't want to talk to your sig other about. Can't really bitch about them to them, ya know?

[Inari]

I would think that people who are used to being alone wouldn't get lonely as easily as people who are used to being with company all the time. I grew up with three sisters and never ever had loneliness issues growing up, but I pretty much entirely kept to myself. These days I spend 3/4 of my time with friends, and if I go a day alone I go stir crazy.

I went through this whole phase of trying to cut any ties of dependency from my parents and my friends. I can honestly say that I was the best I've ever been emotionally during that point. I've since reverted to shirking my responsibilities and hanging out with my friends all the time, and I'm disgusted with myself. Oh well. :<

[Indigo]

I hate to depend on things/people because it makes me feel like I'm part of this engine or a sort of parasite. But I don't think anyone can say that they don't depend on anything/anyone.

[Matron]

I would think that people who are used to being alone wouldn't get lonely as easily as people who are used to being with company all the time. I grew up with three sisters and never ever had loneliness issues growing up, but I pretty much entirely kept to myself. These days I spend 3/4 of my time with friends, and if I go a day alone I go stir crazy.

I went through this whole phase of trying to cut any ties of dependency from my parents and my friends. I can honestly say that I was the best I've ever been emotionally during that point. I've since reverted to shirking my responsibilities and hanging out with my friends all the time, and I'm disgusted with myself. Oh well. :<


You make a good point there- sometimes, I just crave to be alone. I mean really, truly alone. There is always someone here, and I do miss that aloneness, that complete silence all but my thoughts. Growing up alone like that, it can be kinda tough to live in such chaos all the time, but it doesn't get to me too much.

But that doesn't mean that I don't still miss having friends.

[Phakiel]

I depend on my friends, family, the internet and money.

My friends keep me sane, if i didnt had people who genuinely care for me outside of my family circle, i would be a very lonely person, like you would expect. I do only have a handful of true friends but those are the ones that are worth it.

Family, even though it is the reason I have so many psychological issues, are still the rock i base my life on. They give me love and care and i appreciate that.

The internet gets me porn and entertainment. I can spend a full day off just browsing crap online.

Money makes my mode de vie possible. It allows me to indulge in excesses be them alcohol or videogames I wont play until I am done with my backlog (around 10 pending games so far), food and, well pay for internet.

[Mark]

I depend on myself for the most part...I dont like help from anyone, and I teach myself everything. I really dont know why I hate getting help from people, unless its about personal things...if im depressed I just gotta talk to people about things.

[King Zeal]

I would think that people who are used to being alone wouldn't get lonely as easily as people who are used to being with company all the time. I grew up with three sisters and never ever had loneliness issues growing up, but I pretty much entirely kept to myself. These days I spend 3/4 of my time with friends, and if I go a day alone I go stir crazy.

I went through this whole phase of trying to cut any ties of dependency from my parents and my friends. I can honestly say that I was the best I've ever been emotionally during that point. I've since reverted to shirking my responsibilities and hanging out with my friends all the time, and I'm disgusted with myself. Oh well. :<

That last paragraph sums me up pretty nicely, too.

I honestly think that the best clue to how lonely I was during childhood was how desperately I wanted friends to hang out with regularly. Throughout grade school, high school, and half of college, I never had such friends. I had people who were cool to hang out with on occasion, but I didn't have buddies who were just down for whatever, whenever. When I finally found some, I started taking it a bit overboard (still do, often times) and suddenly didn't find doing anything fun unless my friends were there to enjoy it with me.

[Matron]

I can relate to that too. I used to get really clingy, and want to be around all the time, even when I knew that I wasn't really a part of things, I was just sitting on the edge of the group, but I was there, so that's all I cared about. Ok, it wasn't all I cared about, but it helped a little.

Now, I tend to do the opposite- I don't call people, I don't IM people, I wait on them to call or IM me, because I don't want to be a nuisance. I always have that feeling of I'm bugging someone, why would they want to talk to me, so I just keep to myself most of the time.

I've been trying to do better lately though.

[Powerslave]

I'm totally dependent on my parents. I don't make any money! ASDihaOSdauhda. Other than that I guess I'm pretty dependent on the internet to get anything done or find informaton on anything I need. Other than that I wouldn't really say I'm "dependent" on anyone/thing. Sure, I love hanging out with friends and I love my sister and my cousins, and my girlfriend, etc. But I'm not "dependent" on them or need to be with any of them at all times.

PS: Oh, yeah, I am dependent on music and cigarettes, too.

[Atlas]

I depend on friends/acquaintances.

It may or may not be easy to tell by my online persona, but I get lonesome very easily. Being an only child and a latchkey kid will do that to you.

I tend to get myself into trouble at times because I want to be respected by my close friends. I don't mean legal trouble, but financial trouble. Many times, I've done favors for friends because they made me feel that I was getting them out of a jam. However, quite a few of those times, those favors have substantially hurt me. My car has over $500 worth of body damage because I chose to drive a friend home one day and got involved in a hit-and-run. And yet, whenever I refuse to give him another ride (or any of my other friends for that matter), they act like I'm the bad guy. But, I don't see anyone offering to help patch up my ride, so . . . whatever.

I'm hoping I don't have codependency issues, honestly. But, outside of the internet, I just care too damn much about what some people think of me.

Wow. I'm very surprised to see you get so transparent, Zeal.

This is my advice:

Next time you feel unappreciated, delve past your insecurities and find some inner passion, then transfer that into a hearty meal of explanation and let your friend(s) know how you are feeling(unappreciated).

Obviously you don't want to seem over zealous(lol), but you do want to express your feelings properly. You very well could have an unbalanced amount of codependency, but let me just say that it's hard to find a good friend, and you sound like a good friend, for sure.

Just let them know, ya lofty softy.

[Blackdragon]

I depend on my family, my fiancee, and my friends for the most part. I guess they provide some kind of emotional stability and support that I need in my life. Lower on the tier comes the internet, my cellphone, and games for my escapes from reality and entertainment. My mind can't be left unattended for too long.

[Less Than Liz]

I am a freakishly independent person; I loathe being beholden to others, and I pretty much view dependence as a way for other people to "cash in" favors. I regularly try to cut myself off from my parents as much as I can, but at the same time some things (being claimed as a dependent, being part of a family plan) help them out as much as it helps me, so I cede some of that independence because it simply makes more sense for both parties than being stubborn. That said, the law schools I am looking at are not that nearby, and I really cannot wait. I have been in Rochester my whole life and close to my family and it's beginning to feel suffocating, so it'll finally be an opportunity to meet people in another area and really start living life on my own terms.

[Mary]

I depend on technology in general. I can usually go camping for a weekend, but longer than 3 days without technology and I start to freak a little.