things that we can do nothing about...

[Mark]

alright so here is the situation. My new girlfriend Katrese works at one of those Titty & Wing Restaurants like Hooters and Wing House at a place called Mugs & Jugs (or Beer & Boobies as I like to call it). well she is one of the waitresses there, and she was serving a table of 3 women and 1 man. now one of the women who Katrese has never met before knew who she was and was Harassing her, because she apparently knows me, and made it a point to make sure Katrese knew that she did. Katrese never did get her name, so I have no idea who it could be, and this really heats me up. now she wants me to drop this whole thing and walk away from it because she claims there is nothing I can do about it. because no matter what when I am gone and deployed like I am now, it wont stop anything. now what angers me is that considering I have not hung out with many people except Katrese since we started dating, the only way anyone would really know her name and where she worked at would be through facebook, because the women knew her name, and that we are dating. I guess what really ticks me off is that someone who I thought was a good friend of mine is going behind my back to try and ruin something that I cherish. but another thing is I don't like that fact that my girl has to deal with problems that are indirectly linked from me. because if we were not dating then she would not have been harassed like she was, for doing nothing wrong at all. so what do you all think about things we really can't do anything about?

[Evil]

If I were to take a guess. These women, whoever they are, seem to have had a thing for you and are not too happy by the fact that you are now with Katrese. So while you are away, they've taken the initiative to interfere and harass Katrese.

But it's not as if nothing can be done a bout it. If customers are harassing her in her place of work, she has the right to report it to her manager. If her manager does nothing or if it follows her out of her place of work, she should report it to the police.

BUT

Do not indirectly link the blame to yourself. You cannot control the action of assholes.

[Mark]

this is very true. and I do realize it, it just pisses me off that people can be so heartless. the other 2 girls and the guy where nice she said and they gave her a good tip, but the super bitch who apparently is jealous of her was just being very rude and did not tip her at all. and if you know anyone who is a waiter or waitress tips are how they make money. so it was like a huge slap in the face to her.

[Cyrus the virus]

It's not like they'll be going back every week to harass her. At least, probably not. Just try to forget about it and move on.

[Faith]

I usually don't take it to heart if I know there's nothing I can do about a situation, because it'll only cause me stress and headaches and what not if I do.
Especially since you say you have no idea who this woman is. I understand it's frustrating that she's harassing your girlfriend, but you yourself can't really do anything.
I agree with Evil on the situation. Have you talked to her about what she can do?

[Elon]

I think exercise and a punching bag works great. You should try it.

[Mark]

yeah usually Martial arts calms me down a lot. however saving for a house right now, so I had to stop classes for awhile. Boxing does take out a lot of aggression though.

I usually don't take it to heart if I know there's nothing I can do about a situation, because it'll only cause me stress and headaches and what not if I do.
Especially since you say you have no idea who this woman is. I understand it's frustrating that she's harassing your girlfriend, but you yourself can't really do anything.
I agree with Evil on the situation. Have you talked to her about what she can do?

well I have hunches as to who it could be. the woman who harassed her does know me. so its just finding out who it is. Katrese is stubborn like me though, so its one of those things where she said she is just ignoring it and being the bigger person. which is good, I just don't like she got harassed because someone who probably has a crush on me takes it out on her when she has done nothing wrong. if she wants to be mad because I am dating someone else, be mad at me not her.

[Electric Banana]

It was me. Haaaa... so just kidding.

Why don't you have her look through your friends list on Facebook and see if she can figure out who it was?
But Evil's right, if it becomes a regular thing, she needs to report it to her manager, and if it goes beyond her workplace, the police.

Imma cap a bitch that's going to mess with you and Katrese. lolz <3

[PoolBoy]

It was me, Mark. Ever since I knew you as a 16 or 17 year old, I posted your picture up on my ceiling so that I can make sweet sweet love to myself infront of the image of your godly body.

That said, I definately think you're reacting the right way. I think it is good for your girlfriend to see that you don't condone such behavior toward her, and maybe she likes that! Like if she brushed it off like she is doing, and you brushed it off just as easily that would be weird I think. I think I'd react the same way.

[Mark]

Tell your girl to get over the fact that some woman is jealous of her. Nothing you can do about it as long as you're not instigating it.

And then show her this pic:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v733/blueeon/anigif_deal-with-it-crab-21337-1271098670-392.gif

she is over it though. I am not. I don't like the fact that a friend of mine who obviously has a crush on me is trying to poison my relationship. Katrese says it does not bother her, and that its just childish behavior which it absolutely is, but it still got under my skin.

[Mark]

this is very true Blue! thanks!