Meeting people online.

[Indigo]

Don't say you haven't met people on the Internet. If you do I'll smack ya :P.

Anyway how do you feel about meeting people on the Internet?

I don't like it to be honest... I've been meeting people since me myspace whore days. And I never have felt comfortable about it... I'm not good with meeting people PERIOD. But just the lack of physical contact has always made it weird for me...

I guess my real question is can you make friends on the Internet?

I just don't see a possibility of considering someone a friend on the Internet. I mean of course i make a sort of sub-leveled friendship for friends on the Internet by comparing people I like and people I don't so i can make a sort of simile to the real world. I do like a bunch of people I've met here especially but `I feel like we can't really be friends because we don't really see each other. On the other hand i wonder if I would think the same about the people I met if I had contact with them in real life...

Who's on the same boat? Who has other opinions?

[Matron]

I think it's possible to make friends online, but it's also very easy to just lose touch with them, and have it not really matter much. I used to have a great group of people I chatted with on AIM, but I got out of the habit, and it doesn't bother me at all. There are a couple of people I wonder about from time to time, but other wise, I don't really care. I think I'd miss the folks here if I ever had to leave though, after all, I've been coming here for over seven years now, and I've come to call at least a few of you "friend".

[JustATemp]

i met my fiance online like 5 years ago.

we've lived together for like 3 years now, and i'd say that's a big yes.

[Cyrus the virus]

I've a few friends who I met online. It's slightly awkward at first, but eventually it becomes like any other friendship.

[Sushi_b]

I've met a few varied people online. As dire said, it's quite easy to meet and then lose touch with people. I think the only person that I've really ever stayed in any kind of contact in for the past few years consistantly has been Khal-El, who use to visit these forums frequently. I still talk to him as much as I can.

[Mary]

I've met a couple people online and it's usually super awkward and doesn't bloom into a lasting friendship. It's only not been awkward a couple times when they went to the same school as me and we already had common friends.

[CoolOtaku]

Yeah, I'd say it's possible to make friends. It's super rare for a real friendship to form, but it does happen. The only person I've ever formed a real friendship with has been Adama/Insouciance/whatever-else-he-used-to-be-called here. Only thing is, due to this time in the army, it was hard to keep in contact with him, and at this point I really have no idea how to contact him. Speaking of which, if anyone knows how I could get in touch with him, please send me a PM. I miss my buddy :(

I remember Sushi and I used to chat occasionally on AIM. I think it was around the time when he first moved to Korea. Also speaking of which, we should chat again sometime, dude :)

[charolastra00]

Many of my online friendships have turned into great real life friendships/relationships. I've had a few awkward meet ups, but in general, I tend to think of the people I meet as just like me- looking to meet people outside of their social circle. I do the whole online dating deal too (as in find dates through a site) and that has worked out very well for me.

[Inari]

My closest friends, I got to know on the internet first.

[Void]

I'd like to meet some people I know online (mainly from these forums) but every time I get the opportunity, I mess up by not telling anyone until it's nearly too late.

[Jarrid]

I grew up here and online during the beginning of my teens til now. So, I have met a lot of people. I have disliked a little, but for the most part I have enjoyed you all. I would not be as cultured and open to things if it were not for the people I know online, and I really believe that. As of physical contact and discussion with a person I have met, I have not done that before. Yeah, I think it would be great to sit down with quite a few of you and have a nice talk, but it has not really bothered me all that much. I still consider you all friends.

[Dick Fitzwell]

That's how I am able to go to Sweden for a while and not have to pay for hotels or anything. I just started to visit the last person here yesterday and right away from the begining we were talking fine with no weird silent moments. I'm trying to meet Baby as well, but it's a little hard to catch her online at the moment. I'm usually decent when it comes to meeting people online.


P.S.

Baby if you read this, send me a PM with a phone number I can reach you at please

[Polygon]

Yeah, I've met a few. Mostly just friends that were posting on a message board that already lived in Utah. I've not met anyone from out of state. Now, how do I feel about that? As ling as I feel I know something about that person then I wouldn't have a problem meeting them in real life. If I just met them on some IM or Myspace then I don't think I would.

[Electric Banana]

I have many friends I've met online...some that I consider just as good of friends as many of my real life friends (great example: Blue Eon).

I'm in an odd state right now that the guy I'm sort of dating is someone I didn't initially meet online, and have actually known him for about 20 years...it's a shock. My two major relationships were with guys I met online... One I met on the forum I used to post on before I ditched it and made the complete crossover to AllRPG (Animeboards, and it's a DYING board now, so don't even bother visiting it...yuck), but that guy happened to live in Fresno... The other I met on a dating website called okcupid...he lived in San Jose.

As for regular friends (as in, not exboyfriends), two of my four super close friends I met online. Barb through Animeboards, and Debby through LiveJournal.

It can happen, but I don't use it as my primary source of meeting people. :)

[DrunkSwashbuckler]

Didn't you and Ranma date for a while? And did that kid ever come out of the closet that he was so heavily buried in?

[Sushi_b]

I remember Sushi and I used to chat occasionally on AIM. I think it was around the time when he first moved to Korea. Also speaking of which, we should chat again sometime, dude :)

It was before I left to Korea, so it's probably been close to 3 years since we actually chatted. We should get back on that at some point though. I'm not online very much now but when ever I am, I've never seen you on there. Could be the big time difference that's keeping us from ever catching each other online. Try to catch you on sometime though. :)

I suppose there were quite a few people I use to chat with here now that I think about it. Lodis, Drunkenswashbuckler, Kal-El, Electric Banana, Ranma (only a few times really), Gokuiroth, Steve and probably some others I can't remember.

[Electric Banana]

Didn't you and Ranma date for a while? And did that kid ever come out of the closet that he was so heavily buried in?

There's a difference between a "major relationship" and what I had with Ranma. What I had with Ranma turned out to be a ridiculous joke, "e-dating" hardly equals real dating... Amusingly, I lived in denial that it wasn't different, but I see it differently now. I still don't care to speak with him because of how rude he was to me the one time I saw him in person.

[CoolOtaku]

Funny that Ranma should be mentioned, seeing as just yesterday I was wondering what the hell happened to him.

I do get on AIM from time to time, but it's usually very quick (get on, get off). Occasionally though, occasionally I'm on for a good while ;)

[Phakiel]

There's a difference between a "major relationship" and what I had with Ranma. What I had with Ranma turned out to be a ridiculous joke, "e-dating" hardly equals real dating... Amusingly, I lived in denial that it wasn't different, but I see it differently now. I still don't care to speak with him because of how rude he was to me the one time I saw him in person.

I'd be nice to you EB. I use lubricants.

[Void]

Funny that Ranma should be mentioned, seeing as just yesterday I was wondering what the hell happened to him

I talk to him on Facebook, quite often. He's still doing library shit.

[CoolOtaku]

Really? That's... Well, to be honest, that's actually pretty depressing :\

[Mark]

well finding friends is one thing but from personal experiences NEVER try the online dating thing...it has always ended up badly for me.

yeah Myspace girls looking for people that way are crazy, and same with other places too. yeah thats why my account is required to know my last name or email address I cant stands the crazy bitches no more on there. :/

[charolastra00]

well finding friends is one thing but from personal experiences NEVER try the online dating thing...it has always ended up badly for me.

yeah Myspace girls looking for people that way are crazy, and same with other places too. yeah thats why my account is required to know my last name or email address I cant stands the crazy bitches no more on there. :/

That's because it's Myspace. It's for 14 year olds who think they're 20 (or 40 year olds who want a 14 year old).

Specific dating sites aren't bad. I know several people on here have had some range of success with OKCupid.

[Polygon]

Last night my brother and his wife forced me to put a profile on a dating site. They told me I need to get a wife.

I'm already regretting it.

[Phakiel]

I so want to try eHarmony just for kicks. That must be the saddest internet community ever.

[Poofy]

I've never met a single online friend in real life. Everyone I talk to is far from local, and while I enjoy talking to them, I'm not going to drive across the U.S. just to have a cup of coffee with them.

[AngelofSorrow]

I've only got to meet someone once, and I've been dating her since.
Almost five years now.

[Inari]

I so want to try eHarmony just for kicks. That must be the saddest internet community ever.
eHarmorny is going to reject your personality assessment.

[Phakiel]

You know what, you are probably right.

[Poofy]

Last night my brother and his wife forced me to put a profile on a dating site. They told me I need to get a wife.

I'm already regretting it.
Bleh, I hate to admit it, but I've been told to do the same thing, and like a lonely schmuck, I followed through with it.

So far I've tried eHarmony and Yahoo Personals. From what I've heard about eHarmony, they're the biggest crooks on the Internet, letting you sign-up for free and then showing you local matches, but as soon as you pay them (In order to make contact with said-matches), you only see half the results as you did when you were a free-subscriber, and a lot of the remaining matches are old profiles that haven't been active in months/years. Needless to say, I'm not too inclined to find that out for first hand if that's true or not, especially at the rates they charge. **** dat shit.

Yahoo Personals... I've SURPRISINGLY had some success with.

[Electric Banana]

okcupid.com!
haha I met my ex-douchebag on that site.

[Mark]

yeah I tried Craigslist a long while back...and some other site too but I cant remember it its been so long...but yeah the one from the site was underage (which I swear I did not know at the time and I had only found that out a few weeks ago) and the chick from Craigslist was cool as hell (she would always text me and send me pictures of herself [a few nudes as well], but sense she was in nursing college and lived about an hour away we never got a chance to really hang out more then once or twice, so after awhile it pretty much just died.

[Poofy]

The only girls on my local Craigslist are automated spambots. >:"(

[Mark]

lol that and hookers. :/

[Teenychicka]

I've met a lot of people from online. They're good people and a lot are still good (albeit long distance) friends! I've never ran into any creepers or problems, thank god. But I trust my personal judgement.

[Mark]

haha yeah I really have met some pretty screwy people...I dunno I just gave up on people for the most part.

[Indigo]

People are over rated.

[Mark]

pretty much.

[Jarrid]

I am actually re-meeting a lot of people online that I use to go to school with a while ago. I am getting to know them more and learning a lot about their lives. Most of us are in different places now, but the internet is ideal for those situations.

[Matron]

I'm kinda doing the same thing- catching up with people on myspace and facebook. Hell, even a girl I hated added me the other day. It's kind of strange, because half the people who I talk to now barely even acknowledged me in school. Of course I can never find the people I want to find, the good friends I just lost touch with over the years.

[Jarrid]

Yeah, I use those two as well, and I do find it odd that people I once knew that never said a word to me are thrilled to have me as their friends on their page. They go as far as, "How have you been doing? I have not talked to you in forever!" Yeah, right. Either way, though, I still chat with them. Growing up, we all change in many ways and mature (hopefully), so I suppose that could be the case, or they are just complete online attention whores.

[Matron]

Well it's very disconcerting for someone who always felt like an outcast in school to suddenly have people wanting to be "friends."

[Indigo]

Oh god, have I got a story:

Okay so i do a bit of mysepace whoring some times. So this girl added me and we started talking. She's from NYC and she is hot as. So we started talking and when i mentioned I lived in england she asked me to make a video for her and talk to her. I did and sent her the video. We made signs for eachother and such(you know like myspace sign type things) and she sent me videos back(nothing dirty, just something dedicated to me). So we have been speaking for about 3 or 4 days. She kept complmenting me so i thought it was nice if I complimented back. then she suddenly started saying stuff like "I'd love to visit you in England" I said she could and blah blah. So then she said "I wished you lived in the states so I could see you". We spoke about what we would do if we lived toguether and she said:


well, I'd want to hold your hand. all day, everyday.
and when you let go of mine, I'd miss it.
that's for sure.
but I'd want you to be my first kiss.
and when you fell in love with me, if you fell in love with me, I'd want you to be my first time.
I can't believe I'm saying all this to you, but you're beautiful, very sweet to me, and you're real.
it just sort of comes out....

I didn't know how to take that really, she was moving too foreward too quickly... I guess I was a bit harsh with my response because she said:

i think you should make ME another video soon boy :]
to unbreak my heart

she then said this:

im eating pickles, i bet you wish you could kiss me now, huh xD
its 5:43 am here, you see how much i like you?
i stayed up ALL night talking to you :]

I'd rather talk to YOU than sleep :]
sleep doesn't make me smile...

Then she asked me to move in with her saying:

seriously.
move to america.
even if you dont like it xD
I'll take care of you and everything :]

Then we started talking about our plans for the future and marriege(not with me of course((I think)) ) game uo in our conversations, she said:

i dont even know if i'd want to get married.
i dont know if i want to fall in love either.
i dont want to end up getting hurt like everyone else.
and im an emotional person, so i'd be hurt a lot more :/

Then I said:

Yeah I gathered you're a bit emotional, but you also get a bit attached to people easily(if you know where I'm coming from). But you know what they say, no pain no gain.

She obviusly was annoyed by my resposne because her messages back became as minimal as possible, like "oh" and "ok"

Then I said:
I don't like silence treatement :(

So she said:

well, obviously I'm too attached to you, and showing too much emotion, already.
and you don't want that, so I'm stopping.[quote]

They I said that if she wanted to stop talking to me that would be her dicision. She said:

[quote]it's NOT my decision.
it's just hard.
you don't know how hard it is.
I really like....I can see myself.
with you.
and your across a ****ing ocean :/
that's hard.
and you don't even consider people you meet on myspace friends, so how close do you think we'll ever get?
seriously?

I feel like each message that you send back to me, makes me trip up more, and sooner or later, I'm going to fall for you completely.
it'll kill me.

I said we should stop talking, because this clearly wasn't going anywhere.

End of story.

... WTF just hapened?

[Suitcase]

You met one of the many internet psychopaths is what just happened.

[Indigo]

I hope I never come across one again.

*checks everyone's profiles*

[sheeP]

Crazy people need love too. ;)

[Cyrus the virus]

but I'd want you to be my first kiss.

ABORT ABORT

[sheeP]

she's probably lying :p

especially if shes hot as.



She's from NYC and she is hot as.

[Indigo]

ABORT ABORT

yeah that got me a little confused :S

well she looks normal-ish I guess not that hot but she has an emo hairstyle which means +2 points.

[Mary]

wow...crazy people sure are fun huh?

[Indigo]

I know :S.

I'm gonna think twice before i flirt with anyone over the Internet from now on.

[Phakiel]

I have to confess something...THAT WAS ME!

GWHJAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

[Cyrus the virus]

she has an emo hairstyle which means +2 points.

Jesus, Emanuel, this is why I never trust your judgment!

[Polygon]

Bleh, I hate to admit it, but I've been told to do the same thing, and like a lonely schmuck, I followed through with it.

I've managed to avoid those. The site they put me on was specific to LDS people, and free. I guess I'll see how it pans out. So far it hasn't been overly promising. Not that I expected it to be.

[Indigo]

Jesus, Emanuel, this is why I never trust your judgment!

;)

I get the truly good ones in the end, so I'm happy.

[Jarrid]

I have to confess something...THAT WAS ME!

GWHJAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

You dirty little whore.

[Indigo]

I have to confess something...THAT WAS ME!

GWHJAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

Why didn't you tell me? I would have asked you to marry me.

[Jarrid]

You two would be great for each other. Really.

[Phakiel]

FE would be my second choice, if things dont work out with this friend I have then yeah, we are totally eloping to Spain.

[Baby]

I thought you loved me Phak :(

[Phakiel]

I thought you loved me Phak :(

Oh I do, but our love is entangled by prejudice, unaceptance and urban city debacles, I have come to accept this and move on and decided to step up, 2 the streets.

[Poofy]

I've managed to avoid those. The site they put me on was specific to LDS people, and free. I guess I'll see how it pans out. So far it hasn't been overly promising. Not that I expected it to be.
Ditto. The other day I messaged this reasonably cute girl, and waited around for the 2 days it took her to reply. Well her reply was rather suspicious, as she talked about how she enjoyed reading my profile and then went on to tell me about herself. PROBLEM WAS, my profile is pretty much bare bones and it's reasonable to assume there is nothing enjoyable to take from it. So I replied back pretty much calling her out as an automated reply profile or a 40 year old fat guy looking to offer me some candy.

"She" deleted her profile from the site within the corresponding 24 hours.:D

[Blackdragon]

I meet my fiancee on a Yahoo chat room and am currently living with her. We have plans to marry next September (our birth month). So...yeah, I think meeting people online is freaking awesome.

[Poofy]

Sweet deal. I wish I had your luck. Congrats on that.

[Phakiel]

Oh Oh, so Blackdragon might be alive until September, sad, you seemed like a decent dude.

[Polygon]

Ditto. The other day I messaged this reasonably cute girl, and waited around for the 2 days it took her to reply. Well her reply was rather suspicious, as she talked about how she enjoyed reading my profile and then went on to tell me about herself. PROBLEM WAS, my profile is pretty much bare bones and it's reasonable to assume there is nothing enjoyable to take from it. So I replied back pretty much calling her out as an automated reply profile or a 40 year old fat guy looking to offer me some candy.

"She" deleted her profile from the site within the corresponding 24 hours.:D

I haven't come across that yet, thank goodness. The people that have tried to get my attention are:

A. Not in the same country.

B. Not in the same state.

C. Old/too many kids.

D. Not the least bit attractive.

There have been a couple though that aren't bad prospects.