Your Mother

[Atlas]

Your mother, what's she like? I grew up without a father because my mom left him for being abusive, so we'll focus on our mothers for now.

My mother is cool. She's a typical, loving mother who would do anything for me. She is kind of annoying, ya know? She's age 51 but she looks older. She just got over a serious case of lung cancer which forced her to quit smoking for good after having done so for about 30 years. Don't worry, though, she's fully recovered. Gotta love surgery. She's my mom... Yup.

So, let's avoid the awkwardness and just dive into each other's mothers.


Discuss.

[Matron]

My mom is great, mostly. She pretty much raised me herself. My dad was there, but he wasn't there there, if you know what I mean. Except when he was in jail, then he wasn't there at all.
Anyway my mom- she's fairly young to have a kid my age, she had me when she was barely 18. She's always there when I need her, whether it's a bill that needs paid, or a ride to the store, even though she has no money herself, she's got some mean over draft protection, and she's not afraid to use it!

The one bad thing about my mom is she's decided in recent years that she's took enough crap, so now she's prone to bitch people out for little provocation. Like some poor store worker who isn't fast enough to help, she tells off, that sort of thing.

She's been sick most of this year. First it was back problems, pinched nerves, compressed disks. She finally got cortisone shots and got that some better, then she was hospitalized with a skin abcess, and the infection almost killed her. That was a month ago almost, and she still can't drive, still weak, but she's finally starting to get better. I'm glad, I need my mom, I'm not used to being the one she needs.

Oh, she's also a bit of a stoner, and does stuff she really shouldn't do, but it helps pay the bills, and that's all I'll say about that.

[Electric Banana]

My Mom and I are probably too alike for our own good. Stubborn to a fault. When I was a teenager I let her get to me more than now, because she used to purposefully seek me out to fight with me about ridiculous concepts. These days, instead of arguing with her, I tell her she's right. Even when the argument is based on something I know a lot about, such as Geography. "Yes Mom, Australia is cold and covered in ice." (For some reason, she thinks Alaska is Australia, and I don't know why.) Over the last two years, our family has gone through a lot. Particularly, my Mom was diagnosed with an extremely rare form of cancer, Polymorphous Low-Grade Adenocarcinoma (http://www.webmd.com/cancer/polymorphous-low-grade-adenocarcinoma). The tumor was wrapped around the nerves in the left side of her tongue. After extensive surgery to remove the tumor (and nerve, as the nerve was dead), and going through a full course of radiation, my Mom is doing quite well... She has issues producing enough saliva to eat, and she has many speaking difficulties, but she is well. We actually had a scare recently, with a growth on her arm. Doctors were sure it was Melanoma, but it turned out that a wart happened to grow where she once had a mole... Had it been Melanoma, it would have been extremely devastating, as that indicates that the initial cancer spread through her lymph nodes. She is scheduled for annual MRIs, CAT scans, PET scans, and all of those types of things now.

My mom is pretty honest, and like the typical Azorean Portuguese woman she's extremely judgmental. The fact that I'm 26, unmarried and have no children, I am deemed as an utter failure in that culture... Especially since, my mother, by the age of 24, already been married twice and had three children. Sometimes it's difficult to deal with her judgmental ways, but I just know that's how she is. No big.

[LagDragon]

So, let's avoid the awkwardness and just dive into each other's mothers.

Now you've got me all hot and bothered.

I'll discuss Lone's mom a little later.

[Phakiel]

Mother is a beautiful, short and loving human being. She loves me and my sister to death. Mother, she has issues. These issues naturally have made a great impact in me, particularly when she had her mid life/menopause crisis which was pretty damn terrible and included long horrible diatribes about how I was gonna fail at life and never amount to anything just because I hadnt finished my thesis during my last semester in law school.

She was always very overprotective and even know when i am 23, fully grown and practically independent she stills constantly calls me to check out where i am at and to always reminds me to take care of myself and not to drink (yeah right).

She is also unpredictable. During the first months of her crisis she said her shrink needed to meet with me and my sister to get some kind of evaluation going of her life. Here we talked about my feelings towards her and her relationship with her boyfriend and all that sort of crap. Then mother entered and for some reason we were discussing my sex life.

Up to this point, my family has never met a steady girlfriend of mine, mostly because my last relationship was in high school and ever since then I have had zero relationships and have just been fooling around with chicks until the recession at which I am currently on since august. So, as we were talking about my sex life for some reason the topic of me being gay was brought up and mother said that whatever my sexual preference is she would accept it and respect it.

Now, this was incredibly shocking for me for some reason. Main one being, I am not or was at any point, gay. Secondary being that during college my entire wall was covered by Carmen Electra, Morrigan and those two chicks that have a poster where each one is pulling the other's panties and there is a caption that says "Lend a Hand". Third being that I have been watching porn for so long, I have become a complete deviant in sexual matters. And she knows this, she has found my porn, she had caught me watching porn (she has a problem with knocking doors, seriously). So this was completely and overly surreal. Not as surreal as when my aunt asked a friend of mine if i was gay when she was drunk. What the **** is up with his shit anyway.

Anyway, I hate to admit it, but at least 40% of my emotional problems are possibly due to mother, the rest is my absent father and other family members, friends and women. I still love her to death which i guess is how love works, unconditionally.

[Indigo]

No, your mother!

Mom's cool, I guess. She's over exaggerated about everything... you can barely walk in this room(mom) Calm down it's just a T-shirt on the floor.(me) You kids don't appreciate what I do.(mom) Okay, okay, I'll pick it up... geez(me) Okay, that's it, no more games for the week(mom)

^ true story.

She is a clean freak, Wen I tell my friends I can't go with them because I need to clean the house they as "what? is it dirty?" because it never is, and it's true, When I have to clean it's because there's a spec of dust on the TV or something.

[Atlas]

I can relate with you there. My mother is a huge clean freak and probably always will be. She's calmed down about it as she's grown older, which is nice.

[charolastra00]

My mom is more than a bit bi-polar but as long as we're not living together, we get along. She had the misfortune of being an ISFJ in a house full of INTJs so she really doesn't *get* how me, my brother, or my dad thinks. So she nags. A lot.

The one thing I can say about my mom is she never did anything to make me lose respect for her. Had she been a single parent, had me before she was financially stable, was a teen mother, or had to run away from an abusive husband because she didn't have the common sense to get out before she got pregnant I probably wouldn't respect her. That may make me judgmental but I don't really care. She has been with my dad since she was 13 and is now 49. She managed to date him for 9 years before getting married and never got pregnant. Then she was married for 6 years before having me because prior to that, they were dirt poor. I really respect my mom for having the common sense and pragmatism that is lacking in so many other people in this country.

And in turn, she passed that on to me and made me have a huge deal of personal responsibility. As soon as I was old enough to know about sex, she made damn sure that I knew that if I got pregnant at any time, I was out of the house. She would help me pay for an abortion but if I chose to keep the child or put it up for abortion, I would have to fund it myself because adult decisions beget adult responsibilities. Not that I ever planned on getting pregnant young, but I certainly think that's the best way to parent. She also made me work my butt off so I'd get scholarships for college because (at the time) no one would be able to help me pay and there's no way in hell I wanted to go to a large state school. My mom has always been resourceful and never asked her multimillionaire father for any help regardless of what was going on. Even when my father lost his job and was unemployed for 5 years, we maintained a similar standard of living without going into debt largely due to my mom's financial skills in the past and her ability to draw blood out of a rock now.

[Hyde]

My mom was never really around when I was raised, and my father was mentally absent a good deal of time, oft found at the bottom of a bottle of vodka.

Like Blue, I've spent a long time with my grandparents....though he seems to have certainly had more luck with temperment. My very VERY Italian Grandmother is half drill sergeant/half mother theresa, but she has Rambo's attitude.

Eh....My mom's pretty cool now, though. She's married and happy and I actually just got home from seeing her and my stepfather.

[Matron]

It's kind of interesting that a Mother thread pops up on Father's Day.

Oh, and Happy Father's Day Hyde!

[Hyde]

It's kind of interesting that a Mother thread pops up on Father's Day.

Oh, and Happy Father's Day Hyde!

Thanks. :)

[Blackdragon]

My mother is quite awesome. I got a majority of my traits from her, because she is quiet, likes to keep things orderly, and has little tolerance for lazyness and stupidity. She did what she could to push me, and get me to push myself (One such thing was taking away videogames until the weekends when my grades started slipping). She's always wanted what was best for my siblings and I, and was the one I knew I could talk to, because my father is very arguementive, and stubborn, so we butted heads quite a lot due to me inheriting a little of all of those traits as well. I love her way more than I've probably ever admitted and wouldn't trade her for anything in the world.

[Less Than Liz]

My mom's currently going through The Change. Ask me when it's over.

Actually, I will say this: I love my mother dearly, but we're complete opposites and it causes a lot of friction. I go to a great school that's in my hometown, but I cannot wait to hit up law school and get out of here. The woman is driving me nuts, and I am only home during the summer and breaks.

[Cyrus the virus]

Mom's a nag, but she loves.

[Atlas]

It's kind of interesting that a Mother thread pops up on Father's Day.

Oh, and Happy Father's Day Hyde!

The most ironic part about it is that I had absolutely no idea about it being Father's Day. Dead serious. I found out later on when I got to work and everyone was talking about it.

That is weird.

[Hyde]

"My Mother's a Saint!"

[Phakiel]

My mom's currently going through The Change. Ask me when it's over.

Actually, I will say this: I love my mother dearly, but we're complete opposites and it causes a lot of friction. I go to a great school that's in my hometown, but I cannot wait to hit up law school and get out of here. The woman is driving me nuts, and I am only home during the summer and breaks.

Oh thats terrible. And it lasts too or at least the consequences linger in time, apparently forever. Mother's started almost 3 years ago.

[Indigo]

The Change?

[Inari]

My mom's the epitome of the little Filipino lady. She's a total fob but it's hilarious. Especially since she loves the internet now (she was telling me all about how she has accounts for pretty much every popular website--myspace, facebook, youtube, etc). She's extraordinarily goofy and I poke fun a little bit sometimes but she likes the attention. :>

Aside from that I have lots of respect for her. She's got a a great work ethic--wakes up at 5am and gets home at 5-6pm every day for as long as I can remember. She commutes into the city and she works for San Francisco social services' welfare department. Yeah, SF is the northern california mecca for bums, and she's been working there for over 20 years.

IMO she's a great mom simply because it's totally obvious how much she loves her kids. No one is a perfect parent but the one thing you can do 100% is exhibit love and support for your kids, and she's got that one down pat. I actually have a really healthy sense of empathy (even if I choose not to show it all the time) and I think that's from my mom.

Some of her faults.. She gets frustrated really easily and freaks herself out. I've never had a problem with my mom flying off the handle at me or anything but she internalizes everything. I don't mean she takes it and hides it, it's pretty obvious when she's upset because she gets all flustered and stressed out. I'm scared to do anything supremely disappointing for fear of giving her a stroke. @_@ The other thing about her is that she's totally passive. I wish she would assert herself in more situations. There are some things that she has a wide comfort zone and it's nice to see her be assertive, but then there are other situations where she just lets herself get steamrolled and it's disappointing. :<

Ah in short, I love my mom (when I'm not living with her).

[Jarrid]

I love my mother, and I am fortunate to have one that has always treated me with all her care and love. I suppose you could call me a momma's boy. Growing up as a very early child I was always over at her parent's house, and my grandparents would basically watch over me while my mother finished her degree to become a teacher. She always was the one in the family that disciplined me whenever I did something wrong, but I rarely ever got in trouble or pissed her off. I have been told by all of my friends that my mom is pretty cool, and they love her company. Last week for example, my friend and I went over to her house, and we all drank a few cold beers by the lake. I like that I can have that relationship with her. She is kind of air-headed, but that is what makes her so great. She cracks me up all the time.

[Cyrus the virus]

The Change?

Menopause.

[Phakiel]

You?ll see when your Mother gets there Fallen, its the worst.

[Mary]

I mom is going through the change too. She's a great mom but we've always sort of clashed personality wise. She is also EXTREMELY nosy and used to go digging through my room trying to find bad things I'd done so she'd have an excuse to ground me and keep me at home with her. Overall though I really do love my mom, i could just never live with her again.

[Void]

My mom means very well, and she's a very kind lady. But she's being controlled by my useless step-father. And when I say useless, I don't mean in the way that I despise him simply for the fact that my mother remarried. I despise him for much bigger reasons than that.

Prior to my teens, I lived with my mother (until she was no longer able to support my sister and I). During that time, I've only ever learned one thing from my mother. That is to treat everyone how you would like to be treated. Unfortuneately, I don't think she was able to apply her teachings to her own children.

[Electric Banana]

My mom was going through the change and radiation at the same time. Bad times. She didn't have a period during the course of her radiation, and then for 4 months afterward... Then, suddenly, on Valentine's day, she began bleeding again...and didn't stop until late April...she ended up needing a blood transfusion...

I thought that maybe the radiation suppressed her period... Well, it would have if she had uteran cancer... Or even something in her abdomen...but since it was in her tongue, the radiation had no effect on her period.

[Atlas]

Sorry to hear about that, EB. How is she doing nowadays?

[Electric Banana]

She's actually doing pretty good despite the drama between her and my grandmother last night... She's still got issues with saliva production and has to buy bottles of those artificial saliva sprays... She sometimes has major trouble eating and speaking, but she's patient, even though it's annoying to her.

[Atlas]

That has got to be so tough. Glad to hear she's improved despite other difficulties...

Hey, when do you want to hangout? I'll give you gas money if you take the time to get over here. ^_^

[Phakiel]

And thats how Atlas and Electric Banana were featured in a very special "To Catch A Predator: Legal Agers are also in danger"

[Electric Banana]

That has got to be so tough. Glad to hear she's improved despite other difficulties...

Hey, when do you want to hangout? I'll give you gas money if you take the time to get over here. ^_^
Thanks.
Also I don't know about all that... I get the feeling you only want to meet me to say "I met an AllRPGer," and I'm not really all that interested in meeting you just for that purpose. Also, you have this misconception that I'm an easy whore...and well, I'm not.

[charolastra00]

And thats how Atlas and Electric Banana were featured in a very special "To Catch A Predator: Legal Agers are also in danger"

Only if you can be Chris Hanson, baby. ;)

[Atlas]

Thanks.
Also I don't know about all that... I get the feeling you only want to meet me to say "I met an AllRPGer," and I'm not really all that interested in meeting you just for that purpose. Also, you have this misconception that I'm an easy whore...and well, I'm not.

That is totally untrue. I really think you're a cool person. I just said I thought it'd be cool to meet an AllRPG'er so I didn't seem creepy, haha.

And seriously, the easy whore stuff was all a joke. =/

You're a hilarious chick who'd be awesome to hangout with. Not much more to it...

[Phakiel]

Hey, contrary to popular belief, I like consensual sex, there is no fun when the woman is unwilling. Of course a surprising anal sex moment can turn ugly when you just go for it without asking for permission. Ah college was awesome.

And dont flirt with me charolastra, I havent had sex with a jew and if you keep it up you might be the first.

[Electric Banana]

Atlas-

If that's the case, it'll really have to wait until I get a job then... Even if you're willing to foot the bill for gas, I wouldn't feel right...on top of that, it's just one more thing my parents would be irritated with me about...

Edit:

Phakiel:
And dont flirt with me charolastra, I havent had sex with a jew and if you keep it up you might be the first.Lucky girl... :3

[Atlas]

Hey, it's all good.

Phakiel, stop being so creepy. This is a thread about our mudders. ;)

[Phakiel]

What if you pay the plane ticket for me to visit you Electric Banana, we can "hand out" and "lift tents" while you "smoke sausages".

Man that was creepy, I guess you guys do have a point.

[Atlas]

Back to our mothers!

My mother is a waitress... she works so hard. Sometimes I feel bad for her, but I know she likes her job. I wish I had the cash to help her retire. She's been a waitress most of her life and doesn't really know anything else.

[Phakiel]

Mother has a degree in mathematics and graduate studies in systems engineering. I think she sometime cries when she thinks about her children being a lawyer and a doctor.

To be fair, when I was in high school, i wanted to pursue engineering. But then i totally flunked physics so I said, **** you jesuits, I am just gonna become a bloodsucker then.

[Electric Banana]

Back to our mothers!Yes... ;)

Phakiel:
What if you pay the plane ticket for me to visit you Electric Banana, we can "hand out" and "lift tents" while you "smoke sausages".

Man that was creepy, I guess you guys do have a point.[backs away slowly]

[charolastra00]

My mom got a degree in sociology so the fact that her children are actually getting degrees in worthwhile subjects makes her shed tears of joy.

It's actually kind of sad. My mom graduated from college right around the time where many government jobs were starting to be regulated. For instance, she became a teacher after college because you didn't need a teaching degree/license/anything. She had planned on being a social worker but didn't know that it had changed over sometime during her college career to where you needed a degree in social work. She got married to my dad 2 weeks after she graduated from college and needed to go straight to work rather than spend another 2 years getting a masters in social work.

Now she works as the director of a daycare because she lost her job a few years ago as a teacher's assistant. When we moved to Georgia, she needed to get teaching credentials but it would have been too far to drive to go to school for them. I keep trying to convince her to open up a full immersion Spanish daycare so kids could grow up with ample understanding not covered by once a week of "Maria" and "Paco" puppets singing the alphabet in Spanish. If she doesn't act soon, someone else will open up a bilingual daycare and then my good idea will be gone.

[Atlas]

My mother just freaked out about the house was a total mess. How ironic considering the previous conversation on here.

Sigh... And I thought getting older meant chilling out.

[Tenacious P]

I love my mom. She pulled a 180 in life after divorcing my dad and went back to college at age 40 only to be ridiculed by her entire family. Well, she got a BS and now lives a more fulfilling life than everyone who doubted her. That's all the inspiration I need.

[Indigo]

My mom would beat your mom at wrestling.

[Powerslave]

Well, my mom has been a professor of Linguistics since about a year before I was born, at the national university, but she's always hated it. From the brutal red tape university bureaucracy to conniving co-workers, it's always been a mess, but hilarious to hear, and of couse she's spent a decade saying she's quitting, but it's not gonna happen. Either way, we've had our fair share of problems and I remember a few years back it was a war zone in the house between her and my sister and me, but since it's all settled down. She's taught me so much over the years, I don't think I could've asked for a better mother. She's introduced me to great music (argentine tango, andean folk, progressive rock, etc.) and our political views are way too similar (except she's way more radical left). She loves my sister and I to death, and we lover her to death back, and that's what matters.

[Electric Banana]

My mom would beat your mom at wrestling.
mud wrestling?

[Indigo]

No, My mom is a clean freak so she would lose at mud wrestling.

[Electric Banana]

What's the opposite of kinky?

[Indigo]

What's the opposite of kinky?
Spatula?

I forgot to mention that my mom cooks like a chef. My heart melts every time I eat her food.

[Electric Banana]

My Mom used to bake and decorate cakes for a living...and the only food she -doesn't- make well, is pizza...but my brother makes great gourmet style pizza, so it's okay. :p

[Indigo]

Your mom has a hard time with pizza? But it's so easy to make!

[Electric Banana]

From scratch? It's not that easy... like, homemade dough, etc?

[Indigo]

Yeah, I make it from scratch. The dough is not that hard to make, it's just eggs, yeast, water and flour.

[Electric Banana]

She does something unbelievably wrong then...haha because it's AWFUL when she tries...

[Indigo]

Some times I put too much yeast in the dough which makes it taste awful. Other times I put too much garlic on top of the pizza as well which more often than not makes people though up. But I think I only made about 3 or 4 bad pizzas out of one million billion.

[Phakiel]

Well, my mom has been a professor of Linguistics since about a year before I was born, at the national university, but she's always hated it. From the brutal red tape university bureaucracy to conniving co-workers, it's always been a mess, but hilarious to hear, and of couse she's spent a decade saying she's quitting, but it's not gonna happen.

Thats funny, mother also works for an university and is always talking about the same thing. I guess working at universities really sucks ass, wherever you go.

[Cyrus the virus]

God, I love pizza. Let's hang out, Emanuel.

[Indigo]

OMG AllRPG Pizza party!!!

[Phakiel]

I?ll bring the beer.

[Cyrus the virus]

I'll bring the pain!

[Electric Banana]

I'll bring the whores. lolz.

[Cyrus the virus]

I can make a funny joke that would be painful to you, if I want!

[Atlas]

I wont bring my mother.

Closed.

[Hyde]

I'll bring the whores. lolz.

I find your terms....acceptable.

[Atlas]

Hyde likes bananas.

Uh... Oh yeah...

Closed...


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