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[Less Than Liz]

Originally Posted by Zuhzuhzombie!!

Not to me.

But that doesn't answer the question whether or not you somehow find yourself attracted to these people.

No. Usually such guys require some modicum of maintenance and, if not that, my own personality tends to clash with that sort of behavior enough that I don't like dealing with it. I'm incredibly - I don't want to say lazy, but something like that - when it comes to relationships. There are things you have to work through that are just natural relationship hurdles, and then there are problems you create yourself. Clash of personality (which probably isn't the right word, honestly) is part of the latter, and I easily write it off.

I almost wonder if the issue with such women isn't that they're attracted to assholes so much as they feel there's this perpetual need to be in some defining relationship, so they discount the poor treatment. I don't mean to come off as super special, but I think relationships tend to create an additional amount of stress (just in the time investment alone), so I need a larger impetus to enter them.

[CoolOtaku]

Originally Posted by moogle

I had one person confirmed to go with me to a show tomorrow night, and another backup, you know, just in case. First got sick, second hasn't responded in a couple days. Super.


On the bright side, I just got this email.


Somehow that doesn't make me feel better though.

Uhhh, haha, was that from the OkCupid service itself? What the hell...?

[moogle]

Yes, it's actually from OKCupid. But something tells me it really doesn't mean anything and they just send it to people to get their hopes up.

[Atlas]

Originally Posted by Less Than Liz

I don't mean to come off as super special, but I think relationships tend to create an additional amount of stress (just in the time investment alone), so I need a larger impetus to enter them.

And they you, I'm sure.

Couldn't help it.

Anyhow, Liz, don't be bashful about coming off as "super special." It's acceptable to distinguish yourself from the herd. I encourage it--especially when it is actually true, which I suspect is your case.

Originally Posted by Less Than Liz

Do I strike you as someone who would get along well with someone who was a dick to me?

I didn't necessarily mean someone who'd be "mean" to you. What I was referring to more, I think, was someone very haughty. You know, the big-headed (so to speak) kind of guy. Maybe a meathead, if you will. And no, you don't necessarily seem like that type of girl, but then again it was simply a question. So yes, like I said, I meant more of the haughty type.




Oh, and moogleman, don't be discouraged. Whether it be online or the supermarket, you'll find your groove with the ladies (not that you don't already have said groove).

[moogle]

Dude, honestly, hooking up with a chick isn't even at the top of my list right now. It'd just be nice to have someone I feel comfortable hanging out with for a change. Like, I can reschedule something with the girl who got sick, but I was kind of banking on going out tonight for a few different reasons.

I'm just glad my weekend isn't a total wash, as it often is. But I definitely set myself up for disappointment.

[Less Than Liz]

My brother is visiting a college in the area so that is my weekend. I have work to do, anyway, but I am riding off of a Spring Break high and miss going out.

[Phakiel]

Beach trip and concert. Havent had a drink in a week so this may not end up well.

[Atlas]

Originally Posted by Phakiel

Beach trip and concert. Havent had a drink in a week so this may not end up well.

Been a few hours, eh?

I know the feeling. Being an analyst does not preclude me from drinking, but I do feel sharper when I've been sober for a few days; on the other hand, however, I feel more comfortable around people whenever I have that slouching calmness that always comes the day after drinking. On that note, I haven't had a drink in two weeks. But that's mainly due to all the exercise my squadron has been doing during PT days. I'll revamp soon enough. As for the weekend, I'll find a good movie to go see with my lady. By the way, Hunger Games was actually pretty well done. Some people have been griping about it not being rated R, but we enjoyed it for what it was. And spoiler (for lack of knowing the spoiler code):

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All the racist talk about the little black girl dying is ludicrous. She dies in the book! Thus, she dies in the movie. C'mon, people.

[moogle]

Oh my gooood I gave up going to the thing I wanted to tonight for this chick, and she gets sick at the last minute, too. I swear someone's playing a game with me.

[Less Than Liz]

Originally Posted by moogle

Oh my gooood I gave up going to the thing I wanted to tonight for this chick, and she gets sick at the last minute, too. I swear someone's playing a game with me.

Might just be nerves. I mean, online meet-ups, man.

I also love reading Phak's love trials. I need more interesting stories. I've had strange pick-up attempts and the odd date here and there, but it just doesn't compare to the epics I've been reading in this thread.

Originally Posted by Atlas

I didn't necessarily mean someone who'd be "mean" to you. What I was referring to more, I think, was someone very haughty. You know, the big-headed (so to speak) kind of guy. Maybe a meathead, if you will. And no, you don't necessarily seem like that type of girl, but then again it was simply a question. So yes, like I said, I meant more of the haughty type.

I'm never quite sure how we're defining asshole. In my mind, the first concern is how he treats me, so I say "mean" or "inconsiderate" because, let's be honest, I can be somewhat harsh on my own, and I doubt this would mesh well with someone who is not similarly forward or thick-skinned. So if it's someone who might be off-putting to people not used to that kind of confrontation, he might be labeled as an asshole, and that's not really the kind of person I want to include in my post.

Oh, and I don't like dating guys who already live in a mindset where his previous lifestyle is immediately threatened by having a girlfriend. No one likes to immediately start off as the bad guy in any situation where relationship needs and, say, friendship needs conflict, which does happen on occasion. I'm not there to steal you from your bros and have no intention to monopolize so I have zero desire to start off with that presumption.

[moogle]

Originally Posted by Less Than Liz

Might just be nerves. I mean, online meet-ups, man.

Well she's the one I met before, and we were getting along fine. But yeah, who knows. If it was nerves, it was a major dick move canceling very last minute, since she knew I had somewhere else I would've liked to go.

Normally I wouldn't let this get to me but it's just been a string of shitty disappointments.

[Phakiel]

Originally Posted by Less Than Liz

Might just be nerves. I mean, online meet-ups, man.

I also love reading Phak's love trials. I need more interesting stories. I've had strange pick-up attempts and the odd date here and there, but it just doesn't compare to the epics I've been reading in this thread.

Well not an actual date story but I met one crazy chick some days ago.

A friend of mine was visiting from Chile and on her last night here I picked her up and went to a restaurant. She said some other friend called her to see what was up and will join us later.

We went to this cuban restaurant which her friend recommended (it was that or this seafood joint but my friend did not want seafood) and I think were there for maybe an hour or so before her other friend arrived. Some time goes by and then a friend or cousin or something of my friends friend also join us.

This is where it gets odd. So this new chick arrives and she is loud as fuck, one of those people you know, its clear all these people are well, a bit ghetto. The girl is older and clearly likes the cock and from the moment she sits beside me she starts flirting the fuck out of me. I like the attention and she is actually attractive, albeit yeah, bit ghetto, so she is loud and weird, a girl definetely want to fuck but never absolutely never want to call again.

Well I had made up my mind to try and fuck my friend that night so i didnt want to be that open when asking for the girls number, so i wanted to wait until my friend was in the bathroom or maybe find a non obvious way to get her number, maybe I was thinking of giving her my card and say its for business matters (she said she worked as a manager for this paint company) but then, she made the turn from ghetto fuckable to crazy bitch you may not want her to know where you work/live.

See, she starts to ask for a drink and starts to go for cocktails but the place doesnt have even fruit punch or even orange juice, which is shit, so she asks for a glass of water and then begins to search in her purse to see if she has anything to mix in. This is interesting to me because what will this girl have, maybe a splenda packet, that seems the best bet, or maybe she is prepared and may have some powdered juice, just maybe, not normal but I cant go with it.

She finally finds something, she goes "Oh here we go" and she pulls out this little silverish white packet, quickly rips it open an pours it on the water an mixes it in.

I am curious, I mean what is in the packet? Its silver ish and doesnt have any alluring colours or logos, just blank letters, it seems, from afar it seems like it could be...it is....i pick it up and its a saline solution for dehydration, orange flavoured.

I am exctatic, I just think there is no way in fucking hell this girl had a saline solution packet in her purse and that she is just enjoying the fuck out of it, like seriously.

Afterwards we were going dancing and I wanted to keep on partying because I hadnt gotten to crazy bitch number and I was tipsy and when that happens I just begin my spiral to not going to work tomorrow mode. Also they said dancing and although I cant dance I just know I am gonna en up dancing with the crazy chick and get totally horny about it. But then the other people in the table try and skim me out of my change and so my friend and I get a bit ticked off by this behavior and just go opposite of how they others wen an kept on drinking elsewhere.

Now, recently I have been thinking of how to get in touch with the crazy chick but not know how. I just think that if I go out with her I am totally gonna get a great story out of it.

I know that somwhere down the line I wrote down my friend's friend number who was friens with her, I'll let you know how this develops.

[CoolOtaku]

Originally Posted by Phakiel

I just think that if I go out with her I am totally gonna get a great story out of it.

Dude, you already got a great story right there! hahaha

I swear, man, sometimes I think you're just making up all of this stuff for kicks!

[Atlas]

I give him the benefit of the doubt. People used to think I made up all my insane stories, but everything was true. I was probably more honest on these boards then just about anyplace else. Besides, Phakiel is like a wandering gnome, always getting himself into some type of mischief.

[Phakiel]

I swear on everything thats holy that every single story I have told here about my personal and dating life is 100% true. Its like someone out there, god if it exists or the aliens, or the dude playin this version of the Sims just seriously loves to fuck with me with sometimes hilarious results, other times not so much.

I like to think the universe has a cosmic joke bet on my life.